We are overwhelmed with the kindness and support that family and friends have been and want to let you know this has been an amazing trip and we are not ungrateful for all the wonderful things we have seen and done! With my recent whining, I wanted to make that clear! We know even in the midst of challenges there are blessings! We know that to be true! It will always be that way because we have a loving Father in Heaven! Hooray for that knowledge!
O.k. now, a huge favor we must ask of everyone....(it seems awfully selfish to ask but, you must understand some things about our EmmaLi) We love you all and want to see you and are sure all want to squeeze her and hug her and love her-we so wish that were possible!!! Unfortunately, EmmaLi was raised differently than all of us. She does not know the meaning of "family" and will not understand this for a long while. She still considers us as care takers. She wants me most of the time but, will not look at me and will not let me hug or squeeze her. She will not let us be loving to her yet but, has learned we do feed her and clothe her and play with her. (We do sneak our lovin' in when we can). She hits for survival and throws things alot and calls for Mama and it is not me. Attachment is critical to her well being and for our family to progress. Instincts would have you pick her up when crying or love her but, we ask you not to do this for a long time maybe even a year. We don't know how long this will take and we know it is asking alot of especially family who have waited a long time for her. I promise to work as hard as I can to help her in attachment so, that she gets your love and hugs and squeezes as soon as possible. She needs them so much but, she needs to learn about her immediate eternal family first. We love you and hope you know we don't ask this for any other reason than for EmmaLi's well being (for that has to be first for now).
If EmmaLi needs anything and you are around we ask you to direct her to us and save your kisses and hugs for her when she is ready! She is like China's porcelain: Handle with Care! Thank you so much for all of your support and understanding!
We love you all and can't wait to see you all soon!!!
Kim, Jon, Jessica, & EmmaLi
3 comments:
I totally understand and support this! :) Hope your travels home are easy. If you need anything at all please let me know what I can do. Love you guys!
We will follow your lead and do whatever is necessary. We just want all of you home safely and can't wait to see you tomorrow. Take good care of yourselves as well as our "China Doll".
Well put. And I can reitterate the importance of attachment therapy. It can take quite a while,and then in 1 moment, you'll realize she KNOWS you are mommy and daddy and attachment is there. Good luck and see you soon!
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